Hateful Curmudgeon
Todd Hayen
Sadly, I have now become a hateful curmudgeon. I’ve always been a bit of a curmudgeon, at least since after the age of 60, but only recently have I become hateful.
I admit this reluctantly, and I must say that I still consider this description to be largely selective, meaning I don’t think I am hateful to everyone (being a curmudgeon, however, typically applies with no discrimination). And even the word “hateful” isn’t quite accurate. I don’t HATE anyone, for any reason. This is more like disgust, disagreement, and incredulousness (I don’t know if that is even a word).
I have come to this realization after several years of personal observation. Obviously, the Covid situation had a huge impact on my feelings of “disgust, disagreement, and incredulousness.” But it wasn’t just Covid, it is all that has been swirling around that insanity. Engaging with the craziness during that time was like following the Yellow Brick Road in The Wizard of Oz, but not with it leading to Oz, but rather with it leading to Scorched Earth. Have I become a Black Pill nihilist? Many would think so. Isn’t a “Hateful Curmudgeon” a Black Pill nihilist? Not necessarily.
Recently I got into a yelling match with an asshole driver in a Tim Horton’s parking lot (for those of you who are not Canadian, Tim Hortons is a ubiquitous fast-food chain appearing on nearly every street corner in Canada). I had purchased my sausage sandwich and pulled into a space to eat it; only there was no way to discern what a parking space was.
It had just snowed about 10 inches, and the lot was freshly plowed but was still covered enough that the space markers were not visible. I pulled in between two parked cars, who were not in spaces but rather straddling spaces. In fact, just by chance, I was indeed in a marked space (only because the two cars had straddled the line, leaving the middle space intact.
Of course, I didn’t know this at the time and only discovered it when the asshole started yelling at me to move over. I opened my car door to yell back and saw I was right against the space line. According to the yelling man, I was taking up two spaces. And he wouldn’t shut up. He was honking his horn, and calling me every name in the book, “Move your f__king car!!! You’re taking up two spaces!!” In fact, I could not move because I was about two feet away from the cars next to me, so I just had to leave (I could not show him the line I was parked up against to prove I was in the correct space).
I went berserk. Although I refrained from using the same vulgar language he directed at me, I did raise my voice. I kept screaming, “Stop yelling at me!!” He stopped and looked at me like I had gone mad, which I had. Did I hate him? Maybe so. Was I a curmudgeon? Most definitely.
The incident scared me a bit.
Never in my life have I ever puffed up to someone like that. I seem to have lost all patience for that sort of behaviour (his). “I’m mad as hell, and I am not going to take it anymore!!” If I had managed to completely lose my marbles I would have stormed over to his car and punched him out.
Hopefully, it never would come to that (punching someone out) because it would be very easy for almost anyone (weaklings and most women included) to beat me to smithereens. I am tall and menacing (good for curmudgeons), but I am not strong and certainly not skilled in the art of self-defence/offence. Again, I have not reached the point of expressing that sort of anger. I didn’t even use curse words when I was responding—which says something, a little bit at least, about control.
So, I just walk around, tensed up, and wound up, itching for a fight. I have come to believe that everyone I see is crazy, everyone I see is a potential threat, and everyone I see is as dumb as a box of rocks. Of course, people can quickly change my assessments with contrary behaviour, a little shrew squeak, or some other indication they are on “the right side of things.” But that usually doesn’t happen unless I am engaged with them in some meaningful way. Which isn’t often these days.
This is all new to me. Needless to say, I didn’t live this way before the Big C era (now “Big C” means Covid, not cancer). I pretty much bopped through life believing the opposite of what I believe now. Then, everyone I ran into was just A-OK, no one was crazy (unless they were having a conversation with a lamppost), and people were not stupid unless they clearly indicated otherwise—and even if they did, I would give them the benefit of the doubt.
When the Big C hit, and when I reached the point of “knowing better” (which didn’t take too long), the first thing I started to assume was that anyone wearing a mask was stupid (the crazy and the threat came later). Now, they don’t even have to be wearing a mask—everyone now is stupid until proven otherwise. I know this isn’t a good thing. And I know I am wrong (I know there are many shrews out there that I run into). But remember, I am now a hateful curmudgeon, and that’s how hateful curmudgeons see the world. Crazy, threatening, and stupid.
I wonder often that even if I did not feel this way before, that maybe people have always been crazy, a threat, and stupid (not EVERYONE of course, but many of them). It doesn’t seem like anything has really happened to change people into crazy, threatening, and stupid people—but lots has happened to make it easier to recognize them as such.
But still. I am going to hold onto the hope that this just isn’t so. That there actually is something in the water (so to speak) that is making people like this, and that in a normal world, they wouldn’t be.
So maybe if that normal world ever returns, people will be normal. Meaning only small percentages of them would be crazy, a threat, and as stupid as a box of rocks. And in that normal world, I would not be a hateful curmudgeon. There’s wishful thinking for you. And as the mother of my first wife used to say, “Wish in one hand and shit in the other, and see which one fills up faster.”
Todd Hayen PhD is a registered psychotherapist practicing in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. He holds a PhD in depth psychotherapy and an MA in Consciousness Studies. He specializes in Jungian, archetypal, psychology. Todd also writes for his own substack, which you can read here
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Had a rude awakening which I think is apropos of this essay by Dr. Hayen. Earlier this month (as every month) I received in an email the April Newsletter from the Humane Society of Harford County, MD. What could be more wholesome than that?
Then today I received a follow-up email from the Humane Society reminding me I had not yet read their April Newsletter. What could be more sinister than that? The Humane Society spying on me.
You’ll be saying you don’t believe this is real next….
https://www.standard.co.uk/culture/music/katy-perry-blue-origin-jeff-bezos-nasa-texas-b1222297.html
Its not the time to make jokes folks. Hateful curmudgeons is a serious matter. and they mean it. I urge you guys to focus your attention more on reality!
This is part of the horrifying reality of the American culture. It’s come to that. On my way to this site, I had to pass through Firefox’s news wrap-up. First thing I saw, under the “Popular Today” heading was a news item about Katy Perry, Gayle King and Lauren Sanchez going “to the edge” of space.
Only in America.
by far the most effective response to hostility, abuse and disrespect is calm indifference
the prime advantages are twofold
the aggressor, who at least on some level may be striving to bait the victim into an indiscretion, sees this attempt foiled, and could even be moved to adopt a more subtle approach rather than ratcheting things up in a spiral of escalation
and we ourselves maintain an inner equilibrium, conserving our energy and preserving our ability to reason coolly about how to resolve matters to our own advantage
indifference may shade toward mild mocking condescension if we feel particular antipathy toward the other party, or if we can muster some compassion and generosity vis à vis that person, we might try to shift a bit in the other direction, applying some of the wisdom of experienced diplomats who aim to communicate an acknowledgement of their counterparts’ concerns and propose cooperative paths facilitating compromise
but in all cases the key is to not let another individual “push our buttons” and provoke us into acting boorishly ourselves, ceding control of our own mental state to an outside influence that essentially plays us like a machine
often my rage is aroused from a sense of powerlessness, and I start yapping like a little cornered whelp
the dog realizes it has no escape and all that’s left is the desperate ploy of rabid defiance
but in our lives we’re almost never without some recourse to alternatives, and we needn’t act as if we’re in a do-or-die situation merely because some numbnuts doesn’t like where we parked our car!
A Visiting American, I presume?
I don’t really understand the level of entitlement that allows me to openly rage against another for some perceived slight. If your car was blocking a fire lane and the other driver was, say, in a fire truck on the way to an emergency then I could understand getting yelled at. But otherwise?
I don’t quite get the COVID connection myself. There may be something in it. There’s quite a lot of literature — ‘respectable’ literature — that discusses a link between COVID and the heart condition called atrial fibrillation. This condition which results in an irregular, and often out of control heartbeat, can be anything from mildly inconvenient to potentially life-threatening. The generally accepted figure is about 20% of COVID Patients have afib but there’s some uncertainty about pre-existing or post-disease onset (and, whatever you do, under no circumstances mention any connection between COVID vaccines, especially the newer mRNA types, and COVID. Data is either unstudied or inconclusive but there’s enough money at stake to warrant concrete overcoats for anyone poking around where they really should be). Anyway, I’ve read numerous pieces COVID consequences on OffG but nary a peep about its relation to heart disease. (Which, incidentally, can cause a variety of physical symptoms)(including a tendency to irritability).
The vaccines fill up all the space.
I have only seen people with fever/uncomfortable 2-3 days for a reason called Covid virus after they got the vaccine.
Trump says this virus is like the flue. The flue disappeared, and the covid thing pops up.
Did people on elderly homes died because of covid? or because of the vaccines? or were they saved by the vaccine or what?
I dont even know if this ‘virus’ even exist. I cant find anything than bs on the net about it.
I should be delighted if anyone here could say firmly whether this ‘virus’ made in a ‘cia laboratory’ ‘in china’ exist or not.
Even the Guardian reports 25% of UK the think Covid was a hoax.
Unfortunately that means there are still, globally, billions of a-holes who imagine it was/is real.
Same problem as belief in Zeus, Allah and YHWH.
The only real virus is ourselves:
Us vs. Them Mentality (e.g. Nationalism)
Racial Superiority
Cultural Purity
Gender Inequality
Economic Greed
Gullibility, in the Name of Jaysus
LOL. Believes all people are equal yet criticises other people’s irrational beliefs.
You need to spend less time reading text and more time watching videos of what reality is like. While you still can. In a few years deepfakes will make it impossible to know what’s real and what has been synthesised for propaganda.
95% are a mix of gullible / psychopathic – that is not all people.
You need to spend less time on the wacky baccy to permit simple math.
25% is quite a figure. In my society I cant find 1 single non-vax person within an 30km radius.
But what you describe is only the black vs white concept, evil vs good, up vs down, rich vs poor.
So the C virus is a believe system. Either you believe in it or not. The doctor’s free masonry one eye into a microscope decide what it is.
“25% is quite a figure”
Especially when over 80% reportedly had the first jab there.
Either the Guardian is, as usual, telling porkies or a small percentage had a slight awakening.
The C virus story was so full of holes that belief in it is for the infants referred to in the other fairytale book:
“When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”
They are beyond contempt.
We know from the Milgram Test there are only 20% men. The rest 80% (call them what you want) will do whatever they are told, and deny what they did afterwards.
The virus is real enough. Before we got used to it killed at about six times the rate that influenza did. (Influenza itself comes in various strains and “YMMV” on your reaction to it — I tend to be in the “what was that, I didn’t notice it?” group most of the time but during my lifetime I’ve been severely whacked by it a couple of times.) As far as its origins go its traceable to an exotic meat market in China. The Chinese government doesn’t like the consumption of exotic meats for both health and conservation reasons but its difficult to clamp down on what was traditional in some areas. Covid at least gave them the excuse to close this market down. Chinese researches have published a great deal of material on this — they have a lot of experience with animal to human viral disease transfer (as in “Where do you think novel flu strains come from? Invariably China.”). Unfortunately it got political over here so we’ve been mired in a slurry of misinformation so, yes, a lot of people really do think its a hoax or bioweapon or something. Its real enough if you catch it — and I know quite a few people who did. (Given my non-reaction to flu I might be in the group of people who were asymptomatic — we caught it but never had any symptoms. I don’t know. I was never tested.)
“and I know quite a few people who did.”
Hook, line and sinker – yet another of the billions of Milgram failure’s.
2035, please please … the solution to the Human Diseasse.
Charlotte von Mahlsdorf was congratulated post-mortem on “International Women’s Day”. In addition, a large street in Berlin called “Charlotte-von-Mahlsdorf-Ring” was named after her, with the Green “Bundestag President” in attendance. However, the rededication had to be secured by police forces, because even during her lifetime, the lovable Charlotte was occasionally subjected to right-wing extremist hatred.
Before she emigrated to Sweden in the 1990s, an event she had organized was stormed by neo-Nazis, who even threatened the participants at gunpoint. Charlotte was born Lothar in 1928 and refused to undergo gender reassignment surgery for the rest of her life. She was also never a noblewoman, as her false name suggests:
“His father had joined the NSDAP at the end of the 1920s and was temporarily the political leader in Mahlsdorf. In 1942, he urged Lothar to join the Hitler Youth. There were frequent arguments between the two, which escalated after the mother left the family in 1944. The father threatened his son with his service revolver.
As a result, Lothar beat his father to death with a rolling pin in his sleep. After spending several weeks in a psychiatric ward, he was sentenced to four years in juvenile prison by a Berlin court in January 1945 as an ‘antisocial youth’. Lothar was released after the end of Nazi rule.”
In this respect, Charlotte can even be seen as a heroic anti-fascist rather than an insidious father murderer. “I am my own wife” is the title of her autobiography, which is now being performed as a stage play throughout the western world.
https://www.sfchronicle.com/entertainment/article/oakland-theater-i-am-my-own-wife-20222226.php
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=i+am+my+own+wife+full+play
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charlotte_von_Mahlsdorf
https://de.zxc.wiki/wiki/Charlotte_von_Mahlsdorf
Uncovering hate is where a conditional love reveals the condition it was ‘contracted’ to mask over or mask out.
The idea that we ‘should not have hateful feelings’ is itself a basis for (self/other gaslighting). Self-responsiblity FOR feelings is not control OF feelings but of their active expression subject to ‘checking in’ with a truly conscious discernment instead of running a ‘conditioned reaction’.
There are no ‘feelings’ but that they result from meanings given and received – a process of interpretations that draw on past association.
The ‘triggering’ experience can be anything, but what is triggered is your past, and regardless what is actually occurring you are likely to relive your past as if really happening – rather than discern the situation that is active.
I don’t say this as anything to live up to – as if you ‘should know better’ because if you did you would have seen or felt ‘better’ options. But that it caught your attention and framed an article is reason to be curious – in a desire to uncover your own ‘participation’ – regardless the provocation.
Territorial conflicts can express in many ways. Healing is simply restored presence – releasing what does not belong – and serves you not at all.
Can anyone truly hate you?
Or can they only hate a version of you that they make in place of a real relationship?
God is not mocked – nor therefore His Son – but the conviction and belief that we can and have hurt and are hurt in truth underlies existential guilt for a ‘separateness’ set over against an ‘othered life’ as a self-surviving mind in a body – frail, weak and easily hurt. Limiting conflict can ‘mask’ a mind of subjection to a body and world of conflicted reaction. But no one can release the use of the body in a mind that WANTS to be righteous over the other’s ‘sins’. Nor then the shadow of guilt for the act of wanting another ‘dead’ – in part if not literally.
Synchronicity is often associated with spiritual alignment – but why would a seemingly ‘negative’ synchronicity be anything else?
I see forgiveness as self-release to renewal of the mind. I can release myself in what I made of you – and be free to learn of you anew.
This approach may not be popular in a world set on vengeance for past grievance.
But being true to ourself is of course the basis for being true to all else.
Christian Easter can be seen as the releasing of attack. Not of ‘others, but of what we made of others as part of a world in which God is masked and distanced by conflict and limitation – divide and rule.
It need not surprise me to see deeply dissociative behaviours breaking into the ‘normality’ of established conventions of socially masked ‘reality’ – but I am often shocked or aggrieved for I have corresponding resonance by reaction.
Living from an integrity of being is not like anything I have ever learned – for the basis for learning was set on a separative or private sense of self-interest.
The new way feels like sacrifice but in practice, what I need is ‘added me’ as a by product instead of under a dictate of “I WANT IT THUS!” – however suavely masked (or starkly not).
Whereas the old way runs systemic sacrifice made ‘normal’, for to hold the lie against truth, someone must pay. Lies dictate sacrifice of truth – however ingeniously contrived or socially reinforced.
I had 5 years in martial art. At the end we did 20 knuckle push-ups. This have two advantages.
One: You never loose your cool when some maniac is provocative, and this alone usually cool them down too. They become insecure of what you may have beneath your cool face., a knife, a pistol, a lot of money, or so.
Second: If an idiot continue over the line, I am prepared to give them a punch (even I am close to 70).
I have done that three times in my life with an amazing effect. Just one hard punch to the face or the body so they feel the lead. Just….be cool man.https://youtu.be/a92LKesAPAo
Even before opening the article (the title was visible in the preview) I said to myself : “this must be Todd Hayen, I can’t imagine anyone else with such a title”.
Totally identify with the loveful (not even Todd believes he is hateful) curmudgeon (least the part about beating up someone, which I can do if there is a reason). The problem is that the other guy might have weapons so better check that out first. A simple fact of life which can lead to unwanted consequences. If the parking lot had more spaces I would indicate them to the guy or eventually I would drive there myself, to finish the sandwich in style, yelling is not my thing. Thank you for the article and look out how many comments 😁
You can safely assume no one will have a handgun in Canada. A problem for sure because if I were in Texas, I would not have said a word.
No licensed concealed carry in Canada? Renewed my license a couple years ago. They go for 5 years in Michigan. Cost is negligible. Probably the last time. Don’t carry it on my person. Only in the car when I travel larger distances. (Not all states recognize out of state licenses. You need to keep track of when your gun needs to be unloaded and separated from the ammunition in a place inaccessible.) Never know when that rare occurrence is going to happen where someone like that idiot you wrote about decides to pull his own out. Driving in the dark when few cars are on the road makes you a target. Stop and go traffic where everyone is mad and unpredictable. For some reason when people are in their vehicle they tend to be more aggressive. Probably a name for it in psychology circles. An older brother dropped his license because the likelihood of having to kill someone or several someones has increased dramatically in recent years. He would rather be killed than go to prison for killing others. I digress….
Thought the same thing. But mine is premeditated. Always try to guess an author by the title.
The snag with brandishing a weapon in a situation like this (I’ve seen it recently when “enraged truck owner confronts demonstrators”) is that you are initiating a threat with a deadly weapon. So a bystander — not just a person directly involved — would be quite justified in shooting you dead. (They probably won’t but are you prepared to take that risk?)
Its the paradox of carrying a weapon. A cop is allowed to pull a weapon first because, as a sworn and readily identifiable peace officer, its part of their job. But a citizen is not; your really can’t display a weapon unless you’re under imminent threat and you’ve got no avenue of escape (and if you display that weapon you’d better be prepared to use it). Obviously custom and practice vary across the US — in some places, for example, it seems that white people shooting non-whites is still regarded as ‘justified homicide’ — but most jurisdictions, including where I live, take a very dim view of any unnecessary display of weaponry.. (A lot of residents of our town are retired or active law enforcement. If you were dumb enough to pull a gun in a parking lot altercation you’re likely to find that the person you’re trying to intimidate is better armed, better trained and a lot better connected than you are. You will end up in jail. Assuming you survive.)
It’s all spiritual warfare, we battle not against flesh and blood..
Like
“You’re ranting on at me for having messed up the parking system and you still pretend to believe there was a made up pandemic, pushed vaxces and masks and still have total love for your government believing that they saved you from the worst illnesses in modern history?!?”
It’s probably the similar version of the untold story of some guy who was working on the titanic when he was ordered to stack the deck chairs or have his pay docked.
Classic Todd!
So identify with this.
Many thanks.
Back on the pending list I see?
We are easily controlled, every one of us. I look back on my life and see how my grandparents were easily manipulated. My parents probably more so. Sadly, they cannot wait to get their next vaccination and go obediently along to the surgery. Never mind that they moan about being ill afterwards; it was well worth it.
They respected the bank manager, lawyer, Royal family, Government officials and the hoi palloi. But they had morals.
Nowadays we all just go along like brain-dead morons, doped up, addicted to computer graphics and soap opera bullshit. We watch rape, murder, slaughter and evil on tv, the movies and computer gaming. We respect the MOB gangsters, drug runners and psycho murderers portrayed as heroes worth billions. (I want to be like them).
The BBC tells us who are the good guys and who are bad. School teaches us history that tells a story written by the victors.
Technology will destroy us. I look at young kids, once they ran around without a care, beaming with health, but now they cower in their rooms pale and sick. We must vaccinate to protect. ‘Keep taking the vaccines’, said Hillary Cunt-on randomly after another bullshit speech. Autism, once a one in a million occurrence now at one in thirty, funny that the more jabs we get the sicker we get.
Believe fk all is my mantra. I question everything even my own beliefs.
One man is an oppressor because many are slaves; let us despise the slaves. You are not a curmudgeon. You just despise the slaves.
I feel for ya Todd. In my country I am a whistle blower giving testimony in court and commissions of inquiry over how desenting doctors were shut down, lost their licence to practice etc. I have had to get legal support to protect myself from legal action. It’s a mind fuck and so easy to hate the people that created or supported the Covid madness. In the end I am feeling no different to the people who judge me (literally), angry.
Then I remember a line from a psychotherapist freind, “what would love do now”. Not a lightweight easy cheesy line but a voice from the depths of hell.
That idea grew into trying to find any kind of human conversation with “them” knowing they had been twisted into submission by an incredibly sophisticated propaganda campaign.
So far I am feeling optimistic, I have witnessed small chinks of doubt arise and a fragile curiosity emerge.
As Mathias Demet says, the our task is to speak with an authentic voice and allow the inate, and ancient, humanity of us all to rise up to meet the horror with couriosity, kindness and love.
Incredulously I only realized very recently that the behaviour modification bods that were prevalent in the UK during Convid and are all around us all the time in every nook and cranny, (apparently)…. were directing their modification techniques as much as, if not more towards civil servants and politicians as they were towards the general public. When this awakening occurred for me, my immediate reaction was.. oh that explains a lot of the stupidity on the part of the former. (That ‘something in the water’) Perhaps the behaviour of the general public is a reaction to this… a feeling that this sh-t just aint right, the consequences of which are people appearing/becoming ‘crazy, a threat or stupid’.
There are major roadworks going on where I live currently and some peevish folk going the wrong way up one way roads. A 60 something woman was beaten up last week by 2 men and 2 women for pointing out they were going the wrong way. The 4 were subsequently arrested and proceeded to beat up 4 policemen in the process of their arrest! Will that stop me from pointing out people are going the wrong way? I don’t know!
Next time you find yourself in a similar situation, take a leaf out of this guys book, I can’t think of a more appropriate response…
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/t0lQ9L1XHLE
Off topic but guess what? The Trotters love Adolescence!
https://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2025/03/24/fbxd-m24.html
WSWS groupie Carolyn Zaremba even managed to remove her permanently welded on covid mask to sputter:
Not one single word about the choreographed media circus around it. But then the Trotters long ago revealed themselves as part of that circus.
“…unless I am engaged with them in some meaningful way. Which isn’t often these days.”
Aye. That’s so…recognisable. We have become – atomised.
People generally seem unhappier. I think it started before the Scamdemic but that event accelerated the process.
Just look at people’s faces while walking down the street or on public transport. I see tired, stressed and sad faces, I don’t see that many relaxed facial expressions or smiles.
Even when people are supposed to be enjoying themselves they are glued to their scrying devices. In restaurants, there are couples out for a nice meal who barely talk to each other or are scrolling with their Black Mirror device. Why didn’t they stay at home and order a take away?
It seems to me that too many people are internalising their anger and frustration. Such that they become like a wound up spring. A slight provocation with a stranger, means that they can unwind and let out that pent-up anger on the spot, when in reality the source of their their anger is their spouse, partner, children, boss or another situation that they are unable or unwilling to confront.
Letting anger out before it builds up excessively seems far more healthy, be it through confronting the source of the anger, exercise or some other form of release. Having ticking time bombs wandering around is never going to end well.
“Most people lead lives of quiet desperation,” as Thoreau put it.
“Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way”
Time, DSOTM, Pink Floyd.
“I kept screaming, “Stop yelling at me!!” He stopped and looked at me like I had gone mad, which I had. Did I hate him? Maybe so. Was I a curmudgeon? Most definitely.
The incident scared me a bit”.
It sounds to me as though you finally lost patience and talked to the man in language he could understand. I remember my mother sometimes sounding very angry in shops or restaurants when service was bad. As an embarrassed teenager, I wanted to sink into the ground. Outside, I asked if she were really as angry as she sounded. “Not a bit!” she replied cheerfully, smiling. “I used to be a teacher, and one of the first things you learn is how – and when – to sound angry”.
German saying: “The devil always shits on the biggest pile.”
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colognian_proverbial_expressions
A turkey buzzard no doubt.
“I shit on the devil”!
— Martin Luther
Oh you’ll be fine until they start to diss you in the stores and then walk away, if that is the new trend attention getter, I hope it came from California and was exported from there.
Paging Larry David
Maybe it’s a weather thing Todd.
Snow, freezing temperatures, ice, slippery roads. No such thing in Australia (except in our mountain regions).
Hot and humid weather can make Folks testy, but that’s usually only for three of four months of the year in most parts.
You could try taking up the ukulele Todd. When I’m out busking I get a lot of smiles from strangers, spontaneous dancing from kids, and occasionally some money. I love it.
Simply ignoring a fools rage is another tactic you could try, Aren’t they just attention seeking children who have never grown up?
Chemtrailing should be at the top of the list.
People are miserable when the sun is hidden. 🔆
On a 45 degree Celsius (113F) day a few chemtrails might be handy.
Having a ton of chemicals dropped on and around you isn’t something I’d wish for.
You perhaps, have never been to Ireland. A land where people think rain is nice.
Your right, I haven’t. But I do know the Irish are having to deal with a full on globalist assault. I wish you luck.
If the rain comes, they run and hide their heads.
They might as well be dead,
If the rain comes, if the rain comes.
When the sun shines they slip into the shade,
And sip their lemonade,
When the sun shines, when the sun shines.
Rain, I don’t mind,
Shine, the weather’s fine.
— John Lennon, “Rain” (1966) 🌧️ ☀️ 😎
The Stones, as always, with variation on a theme. Among my favorite songs by both bands.
Rain can be nice. At least when it’s not too cold. Many times recently I’ve been caught in a shower and cursed my luck for not having a hat or umbrella with me. Or even a coat.
Then I remember the old saying. “A drop of rain never hurt anybody.” Guess what – it doesn’t!
The moment you cast aside your desire to stay dry, the problem disappears.
You are babbling babbling. When it rains we have an umbrella and/or rain clothes to not get wet. Why?
Because it is colder when it rains, and if you get wet on your clothes and your body, and comes home into a warm house, the wet clothe will cool off the body when the water evaporates.
You can get a “cold” or lung inflammation…and you could die.
The opposite happens in tropical countries. When you take a shower or you are in rain, you will leave the water on your body because it cool your body off. when the water evaporates.
If you dont do it, but always keep you body dry in hot sunny weather, you body could be heated up too much so you get a stroke….and could die.
End conclusion, there are good healthy reasons for why we traditionally do what we do.
Big C sounds scary, and that era certainly was terrifying. Not for what it was said to have been but for what we could observe governments, their minions and other self-appointed authorities and, unfortunately, the majority of the people to have become.
I call the era before the one which divided society into 80/20 or even just 90/10 “BC”. So, in the era BC, society operated on a relatively normal mix of functional and dysfunctional principles. Now, we’re living in a dystopian scenario where every meaning has been distorted and falsified, with values having once been thought to be good turned upside down and vice versa. In other words, absolutely everything now tinged with a smattering of ‘authority’ is a lie.
The simmering religion that had long ago replaced the traditional beliefs in the Western world had raised its ugly head for full-blown dominion.
I’m sure Todd knows this quote by Freud that fits the Big C era.
“If you want to expel religion from our European civilization, you can only do it by means of another system of doctrines; and such a system would from the outset take over all the psychological characteristics of religion – the same sanctity, rigidity and intolerance, the same prohibition of thought – for its own defence…”
– Sigmund Freud, The Future of an Illusion
And here’s how Olivier Clerc compared early religion with the one that replaced it:
What was disappointing for me was to see just how many people grasped at this new normal and joined the ranks of vilifying, violent and oppressive monsters.
I’m over my anger, just sad now. And preparing for an escape route for when the next wave of destruction comes.
‘cept, bullet point one should read: psychologists have replaced priests.
Psychologists, another profession that lives off other’s emotional misery
(‘cept when they are employed by government ‘Nudge Units’, or, advising
on the best methods of psychological torture in Guantanamo Bay (Gitmo).
(or working in ‘Advertising’ advising the best way to screw The Customer;
having helped bait the hook to lure in the marks.) …
People visit psychologists voluntarily, and often it’s easier to talk things through with an impartial person than a family member or friend. I see some value in that.
Chemicals based medicine, drugs and vaccines, are often forced upon us, especially children, violating all aspects of our individual (or the parents’) unalienable rights.
Just one point within my area of knowledge: the Saviour has saved the world from all its sins; ??
No. The Saviour introduced a concept which was lacking in the world at the moment of his arrival.
God kicked mankind out from paradise because they sinned. Hereafter people would die after first 1000 years (Metusaleh), then this was lowered to 100 years.
But why are mankind even here then, living an absurd Sisyphus life, and IF mankind thus are allowed to live by God, what life in sin should/could we then live to satisfy God??
God send down Christ with his message: “Forgive them because they dont know what they are doing”.
It means the Saviour did bring to us what we all needed badly at that time. We all sin, but to the extent we are stepping in the spinach by gullibility or inexperience, we are forgiven if we repent when we get to know our error(s).
If you start to think about it, this is really a great big relief for all? most? ehh let us say for some of us.
I know I sin and that I am a sinner, but now I am no longer trapped inside a closed labyrinth bearing this for me unbearable burden and judgement from the past.
There is an exit here from. I can live a decent life with purpose and I can be forgiven from the old debt from Adam and Eve.
Thus, the Saviour did NOT saved the world from all its sins! And YOU……YOU my friend, will still be brought to the lake of fire. https://youtu.be/TysIkGtf_a8 .
Ha, love it, especially “ I am tall and menacing (good for curmudgeons)”, as this describes me. Well, I guess I dropped into the category more significantly recently, not long after I turned 65 (how did that happen so quickly?). That said, there was a TV character in the UK named Victor Meldrew (One Foot in the Grave series in the 90s). Many have associated that character with me since…well…since the series started, so a 35-year curmudgeon pedigree at the very least.
I don’t believe it!
Perfect!
I only watched a few episodes, but wasn’t Victor always right? Forever the victim of bizarre circumstance and being pushed beyond his limits?
I could relate to him then… even more so now.
Damn right….I know I am always right lol
https://youtu.be/tLXdoqXbC6k
Madness.
Thanks for the link.
Grumpy old man. Ya, I’m a few months til 70 and have definitely turned into a grumpy old man. I try to balance it out with the sweet old man stuff, but the patience level is just not there anymore. I chalk it up to experience, knowledge, and just getting tired of all the bullshit. Not to mention the health problems that come with old age that certainly don’t make you feel chipper. But the last five years, with the big scamdemic and all the lies and people falling for a fucking conman, the billionaire class taking full control, and, well, I could go on and on, the excuses are probably endless. Even on this blog I have little patience for esoteric bullshit and the Trump lovers making their excuses (go ahead, give me the fucking thumbs down, I don’t give a shit). See? Hang in there Todd and try to get the most out of your remaining years as you can. “You’ve got to fight for your right to PARTY!”
“If I had managed to completely lose my marbles I would have stormed over to his car and punched him out.”
In Central Florida there’s the world’s largest retirement community, it’s called “The Villages” with a population of more than150,000. It’s supposedly known as,
“Florida’s Friendliest Hometown.”
However, it’s actually inundated with a bunch of “hateful
cumudgeons” who are regularly arrested for assaulting or harassing one another.
Just last year, a 70 year old punched an 80 year old who he accused of hitting his car while it was parked. The 80 year old collapsed hit the ground and died a couple of days later.
There’s other crazy stories about older adults attacking their nextdoor neighbors, or vandalizing their property. 😒
In any event, it appears there’s a ton of folks who are on “edge” and it wouldn’t take much for them to go berserk. Do you think it’s the flourinated water, pesticides, mRNA injections, or the toxic food supply. 😁
Perhaps, it’s the economic system creating a social structure which generates anger among those who are totally fed up, frustrated, and disappointed with it all.🤔
Chaos by design.
It’s a cognitive dissonance pandemic.😵💫
Owing to my warped sensayuma I keep several marbles within arm’s reach of my computer, both to remind me, and reassure any interested parties that I do know exactly where my marbles are, including and especially the large obsidian one the size of a satsuma.
At the Alhambra, Granada, you may be targeted by Spanish Gypsies. Pull out a large smoky quartz crystal the size of a small handgun and they all run away.
Be careful you don’t get hit by a meteorite.😆
Yes, I remember Miami Beach in the 70’s when large numbers of American elders were corralled in pens on the cross streets. Sort of store-front style.
I don’t think I can predict or need to predict a meteorite strike, and anyway, the Goddess takes good care of her own. I can give you examples.
The aged have the same right to act up and even flip now and then, like others.
That’s why the created “The Villages.” 😆
That 70 year old was probably me. I frequently deal out punches especially when people make marks on my car or try to steal something of mine.
One wrong word in a the wrong tone and you are in deep shit. But you all know me as a friendly, peaceful, heart warm fellow yes?
As it turned out, the guy who went beserk mistook someone else’s car for his own. So, he needlessly caused a death.
Uhhh thats the worst thing of all things. Causing death by stupidity. No, then it cant have been me.
Violence is the last chance and only when we are cornered and the red line is crossed yes!
“Causing death by stupidity is the worst of all things.”
Yep, it’s sort of like a sadist
A-hole “deporting” an innocent shnook who happens to have an American wife and autistic child and works as a metal apprentice to a Salvadoran torture prison and then refuses to get him out.
Too many people. In a state of Chronic Tension.
‘Cur mudgeon’ – never seen/heard it applied to females.
Must be a Woke, Anti-Male, Sexist word ?
Curmudgeon:
old-fashioned uk /kəˈmʌdʒ.ən/ us /kɚˈmʌdʒ.ən/
an old person who is often in a bad mood.
Gaydar meter alert.
What’s that supposed to mean?
I know what a gaydar is (gay + radar) = some detector but there is nothing in that quote to justify the use of it
When confronted in a car jousting session you only need to calmly ask your opponent if they are vaccinated, that usually shuts them up.
Good point.
Todd describes himself going berserk, as in shouting politely without f’ing and blinding “Stop yelling at me!”.
He has obviously lived in Canada for a long time to think that. So civilized.
He didn’t even get out of the car to have a ‘chat’ with the other driver, although 10 inches of snow outside on a Canadian winter’s day is a good excuse not to.
Interesting that riots and public unrest always increase in the heat of the summer. Never hear of American cities burning down in winter nor British ones, though in the UK the window of summer opportunity is rather limited.
I think the veneer of civilization is only paper thin and is at its weakest where there is no sense of community. Since the idea of community is fast fading, especially in the West, the risk of societal breakdown increases.
If SHTF as a result of say, an economic collapse or a Cyber Polygon type event then we will see that veneer torn off like a sticking plaster.
Todd should watch ‘The Purge’ movies, if he has not already, where all crime including murder is allowed for a 12 hour period once a year in the good ol’ US of A. The second of the franchise is the best called ‘The Purge – Anarchy’ . The writer got the idea from a road rage punch-up incident he was involved with.
https://www.imdb.com/list/ls022338172/
While at work this week, I was accused of being a curmudgeon.
“Not a curmudgeon,” I replied, “a contrarian.”
I suspect the same is true of you. As for “hate,” it’s an emotion inherent to humanity, something more than a right.
Hate is a deadly emotion any wise, humane person seeks to overcome. Those currently genociding Palestinians are so possessed of hate that they even celebrate killing babies on social media.
The only genocide that is trying to be committed is from the side of the Palestinians and their rabid supporters
What kind of acid are you on, man. That zionist shit that’s going around?
Not the point. It is endemic to the human experience. Anyone, or any group that attempts to legislate against it or any other human emotion is not your friend. It’s better to feel it, recognize it, accept it, and let it pass through, dissipated. Sometimes hate is justified. Buried hate doesn’t go away.
There are two types of people in this world. People who take shit (and suffer for it) and those who don’t.
If you don’t want to take shit you need to learn to hate and express that hate without remorse.
Hate is natural. Hate is healthy. Hate is a survival mechanism. Sometimes hate is simply appropriate. It’s bad situations you need to avoid, not your feelings about them.
I’ve said this here before and people have disagreed. I strongly suspect those people take a lot of shit.
I’ve done remarkably well in avoiding confrontation in life. But the world around me has changed for the worse and I have contemplated this and adjusted my mindset accordingly.
(Apologies for the base language, but what alternative is there?)
On a brighter note, for the first time since covid hit my circumstances have changed and I’m meeting more people. The majority of them are very nice.
The worst aspect of the covid era was the reduction of real human contact, and the ease with which the Internet convinced us that humans are awful.
Sadly more humans are awful than I would like, but with care and effort you can improve the chances of meeting the better ones.
Reducing social contact – fragmenting society – was an important goal of Operation Covid.
Yes, but telling them you hate them is bad policy. You should tell them you don’t care one way or another about them, that they are nothing to you. Much more effective.
“You should tell them you don’t care one way or another about them, that they are nothing to you. Much more effective.”
Should we tell them we don’t care as they are stealing our property, smashing up our car, or r-ping our daughter? Doesn’t sound very effective to me.
You have clearly had just as much a sheltered upbringing as I have, surrounded by decent people. The difference is, I have realised that reality (or should I say “progress”?) is catching up with us; we don’t have the luxury of being naive and hoping for/expecting the best. I always expected a calm, peaceful retirement. I now see that it isn’t safe to become a weak, old man. I can’t help growing older, but I intend to be strong and capable of extreme violence – if needed.
When they do that, you should maybe whack them in icy disinterest. I think that maybe hate will make your sword-hand tremble.
Reminds of that quote that seems to be cropping up a lot recently:
“You cannot consider yourself peaceful unless you are capable of great violence.
If you are not capable of violence, you are not peaceful. You are harmless.
Important Distinction.”
This is the teaching of the Old Testament and the Talmud: an eye for an eye. It can only perpetuate the cycle of horrendous violence and rebuild hell on Earth, as Christ understood so well. And no, successfully defending ourselves against our haters doesn’t require sinking to their level. We must pity the possessed as we oppose them, not join them.
My attitude has nothing to do with revenge or getting even.
It is just that, very late in life, I’ve become aware that some humans are very subhuman, worse than any animal in fact.
I’ve seen videos of people committing acts of violence a thousand times worse than anything I’ve seen in horror movies. And they are revelling in it, often after the victim is long dead, so there’s no rational reason for it. Not even a pretext for doing it. The perpetrators are just monsters who should be put down like rabid dogs. Unfortunately there are millions of them, and thanks to the UN policy of Replacement Migration, they are replacing us in formerly civilised nations.
Though I’ve had to concede that civilisation is a relative term, and has to a large degree been an illusion all along.
It was a very pleasant illusion while it lasted though.
Yes, Peter Spierenburg’s “A History of Murder” (2008) is a real eye-opener. Because murder rates in everyday life in Europe before 1600 were off the charts compared to now, not even counting wars.
It took European countries centuries to get down from the quick knifings shown in Romeo and Juliet to where we are now: the difference is between over 50 murders p.a. per 100,000 people to below 5 murders/100,000 p.a.
How do we know? Because there are time series of archived criminal court records from before 1500 that have survived to the present.
Point is that no Third World culture enricher in Dublin or Rochdale stems from a people that achieved this degree of pacification over 500 years.
This is the tragedy. It took hundreds of years* for Britain to become high trust and low-violent, and only 20 years for treasonous politicians to wreck it.
* You could even say it took hundreds of thousands of years, looking at the big picture. Then, pffft! All thrown away.
If I went to the local Baprist church or Mosque and told them the truth (that their deity is an imaginary psycho) i’d likely be strung up.
Their are no civilised nations. There never were.
UN Migration Replacement is certainly real but so was the Libyan no fly zone.
People are the problem – not people from specific patches of mud.
Completely agree.
Not really, Todd. The truth of where we are and what we are living in and under has been more clearly revealed than at any time in my life. When I was 8, (some 69 years ago) I asked my mother, ‘ Mummy, why is there so much suffering in the world?’
She replied. ‘Don’t ask me questions like that, they frighten me.’
When I was 16 I wanted to open a ‘Museum of Human Suffering’ preferably on Piccadilly Circus. Everybody thought I was crazy.
So what did you expect ‘REVELATION’ to be like. We are living in one of the circles of Hell, and it has revealed its face CLEARLY. It was just better hidden, before.
“I wanted to open a ‘Museum of Human Suffering’ preferably on Piccadilly Circus.”
You were years ahead of your time. All London is a Museum of Human suffering now.
In eras like this one it is probably wise to be as temperate as possible because lower frequency emotions like anger, hate, jealousy and especially fear can stop us thinking and behaving rationally and so can become suggestable and easy prey to the machinations of nefarious people and groups (especially the parasitical push towards the digital gulag and transhumanism). I am a naturaly quick-tempered, hot-headed, impatient person so have had to hone temperance over the years and I have been successful (I do brisk walking jogging and other aerobic exercise and also stretches and meditation and use music, etc. to help me). I of course do still slip-up from time to time especially if it is something extremely serious, unfair and upsetting but luckily I also find it easy to get back to a more even temperament (especially nowadays).
I thank Dr. Hayen for this column at this time. It confirms in the most graphic way what I’ve noticed. People HAVE essentially gone berserk – but I don’t think it has anything to do with COVID. Rather, it’s the other way around. “Our” world – which we humans presume to be “our” exclusive domain – has become so polluted that anyone who even comes close to thinking and acting rationally deserves a standing ovation (but not 58 before Congress, which only butchers like Netanyahu are entitled to).
For quite some time I’ve noticed that people are driving faster and faster – to the extent that it’s fast becoming The New Normal. Nothing explains it except something like this “mass psychosis” hypothesis. Or, as Dr. Hayen puts it, “something in the water.” And there’s plenty of something in the water, in the air, in the food, in the soil – everywhere on “our” glorious planet. The planet that was “ours” to cherish or to trash.
There’s no turning back. How can there be, with an army of “forever chemicals” everywhere? But more concerning, no attempt to turn back.
I do wonder if the technology around us not least the electro-smog from all our modern technology — the wireless devices, mobile phones, wi-fi, smart gadgets, 5G telecoms masts, geoengineering, ‘satelites’ (and their different uses overt and covert) and smart meters, etc. — may be having an effect on our brains (including our moods)? Electro-smog is a completely modern phenomenon and official studies should be done and shared with the public asap. There ARE researchers out there trying to expose the dangers of all the technology associated with this electro-smog but tptb seem to always try to hide and stifle it in the usual ways.
Thank you, Howard. I have an upcoming article on my substack that addresses the “it’s in the water, the air, the food, the soil”…how can we not think that all that crap isn’t going to adversely affect not only our bodies but our minds?
It generationally already has, the good news is that the Chinese are more concerned about us being subjected to bad health over such a long period of time than we are, and they actually have a successful long term plan.
The short term doesn’t look so good, but hey, it took a long time to get here.